Severely mentally ill "ADULT" Child: Tough Love for Who?
Debate Process Summary
Debate Event Summary
DEBATE GOAL
Recommend the best Win - Win approaches that create and maintain best conditions for incentivizing the best productive family relationship between parents and their care for a volitile, very uncooperative adult, mentally ill child who does not trust parents and will not share his/her medical information (diagnosis, medications, etc...) with them.
DIVERSITY
Empathetic identification and prioritization of the most relevant wide range of Pain Points and Solution Options that will be used to create the best Win - Win outcomes for the most important stakeholders to the debate process
Pain Points
Diagnosing and treating mental illness is very much still very much an art even though there are tons and tons of reports and recommendations, each case and each individual shows symptoms and responds to treatments in very unpredictable ways
Adult mentally ill children may not have the mental health and stability to be accountable for or have the best judgement for determining whether they are mentally ill or for determining whether they should allow their parents to receive medical information about their mental illness so that parents serve as effective partners in their treatment and recovery process
Many police are pre-disposed to treat African American mentally ill patients as criminally accountable behavior and should be held accountable the same way a mentally healthy person should be held accountable for, even after informing police that person is mentally ill.
Many people at their core do not believe in mental illness and just believe it is a label that excused people for not being held accountable for their actions
Conversely some people use the label of mental illness as a reason to excuse unacceptable behavior, and make little or no effort to hold adult child accountable for their actions to the greatest extent possible(not my problem or responsibility anymore)
Many mental health professionals talk in Jargon or in ways that are not directly helpful for everyday working familites who are new to dealing with mental illness support for family members. Lack of very practical list of things to do for parents supporting Adult Children suffering from different types of mental illness and still living in parents home.
Over several or many years, adult mentally ill children become comfortable with their isolation and actaully fearfully and sometimes violently reject or push back from any attempt to suggest that the nice, tightly controlled fantasy world that they have created for themselves in their parents home or in a room in their parents home is reality, and is the safest and best place to stasy for as long as they are alive. Is this what they truly believe, or is this just the easiest way to live.
When establising and trying to maintain open relationships with an adult mentally ill child that you are caring for in your home, their is a thin line between having a conversation with them and being empathetic with them and agreeing with them when they are saying things that are not even close to reality and just being brutally honest truthful and saying that you do not see, hear or believe in the things they are saying, seeing and hearing, making them feel like they cannot trust to speak with you because you are always telling them that they are crazy indirectly by saying everything that they say is not true or is not in reality
Solution Options
Laws and policies that make it much easier for parents to credibly deomstrate that they deserve the right to more fully understand information that medical community can share with parents of adult mentally ill children who are living with parents and depending on parents for their livelihood.
More counselling and support services, that come to the home of the parents and Adult mentally ill child, where they can be serviced in the environment where adult mentally ill child already feels comfortable with and less threatened, remote online is a good starter, but person to peron conversation, interation and modelling is best
In and out patient mental health services that actually really allow family to participate more fully with planned and structural activities that family can participate in with adult mentally ill child and the medical staff together, so that family wherever possible can be an integrated part of the treatment wherever appropriate, given that family know the patient better than medical staff, they are missing out on their most valuable resource in terms of understanding and treating the patient. Medical staff may not want to do this because now they are held more accountable because you have more people seeing and are aware of what is happening in treatment process, which may make them more accountable for producing good results as a part of the patience recovery process
Customized AI model built specifically for mental health issues, with a section for parents dealing with adult mentally ill children who live with them in their homes, drawnd from results of all research, webinars, etc, that have questions, comments, and recommendations on these topics from years of research that has been fine tuned in an AI model for research and use.
More conferences, seminars and networking opportunities for parents with adult mentally ill children living with parents to mingle, get to know each other, share stories and recommendations, develop activities to get Adult mentally ill children involved in this process, allowing adult mentally ill children to find affiliation, friendship and help heal each other in this process
More workshops, seminars and conferences led by Adult mentally ill children who have recovered or who are recovering and can lead interactive discussions, sessions, role plays, etc, with adult mentally ill children who continue to live and be supported by their parents. No better teacher than someone who has lived or is continuing to live but is recovering from the circmumstances of being an adult mentally ill child who continue to live with their parents.
EQUITY
Detailed process by which diverse Pain Points and Solution Options are put on a level playing field to ensure that the absolute Best Win - Win outcomes are won Graciously, Empathetically and Justly for the most important stakeholders to the debate process
Debate put on level playing field by having both debaters answer these questions for each Pain Point
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Empathetically “CONVINCE” Debate Opponent through “THEIR EYES AND BELIEFS” that Pain Points are or are not a ROADBLOCK to Debate Goal Achievement
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Demonstrate that you “UNDERSTOOD” what your Debate Opponent said and provide him/her YOUR “CONSTRUCTIVE” feedback
Debate put on level playing field by having both debaters answer these questions for each Solution Option
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Empathetically “CONVINCE” Debate Opponent through “THEIR EYES AND BELIEFS” that Solution Options are or are not a ROAD to Debate Goal Achievement​
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Demonstrate that you “UNDERSTOOD” what your Debate Opponent said and provide him/her YOUR “CONSTRUCTIVE” feedback
INCLUSION
GOD'S ARENA
Anyone, from anywhere, can participate in ICU More Perfect Union Debates, online, in real time, with the ability to weigh in on and impact debate outcome by proactive participation as voting judges, "Fairly" evaluating each debaters BEST Win - Win Arguments.
Reports/Charts demonstrating how diverse Stakeholders engage debate process in realtime to directly impact debate outcome: Debater with BEST Win - Win Debate Score and Audience Members with highest voting fairness Scores, Win Debate
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Debate Realtime Reporting
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Debater Winning Report by Stakeholder Categories: Link6
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Comparison of Individual Audience Members Support for Debaters: Link8